WHY DO PEOPLE GO INTO RELATIONSHIPS

 In a relationship coaching session,I often ask "why do people go into relationships?". A common response is "it beats the hell out of living all by myself".
   I find many people get into a relationship for the wrong reasons. They do so to overcome loneliness,the pain of rejection,the need for companionship,the need for financial security and the need to satisfy the ego. Let's examine each of these needs;



 =THE NEED TO OVERCOME LONELINESS
   As the person hates being by themselves,they look for a mate,any mate that shows interest to help overcome the problem. As the saying goes "someone is better than no one".

= THE NEED FOR COMPANIONSHIP
   It feels terrible going to parties or out to dinner all by oneself. Some people say their partner is their best friend. I have had a lot of best friends and never married any of them! Your relationship partner needs to be more than your best friend.

= THE NEED TO OVERCOME THE PAIN OF REJECTION
   When a person feels rejected,they feel so devastated that the only way to overcome this is to find another partner,this gets their mind off the hurt- and does even more if the EX has a new partner.

= THE NEED FOR SEX
   Sometimes a person gets into a relationship because the sex is great.they often fall in love with the sex rather than the person. As a side note: this problem occurs with both men and women. There are some well known people who are constantly in the media with this problem.

= THE NEED FOR FINANCIAL SECURITY
  They view their partner as able to give them the lifestyle they like or would like. Hence the term "he/she only married them for their money"
    The above 5 points are reasons why people get into a relationship and why they stay in a bad relationship.
   In the next edition,we will discuss how you can do to make your relationship magical

If you would like any help in this area, please feel free to contact me.