Venkat Desireddy said Because a thing seems difficult for you, do not advice anyone that they can’t ever do it.
So it is with the issue of real love, what i call unconditional love. My name is Temiloluwa Ade-Alao, a testimonial to true love. I have had my own share of ups and downs in the past, learnt from my past and living a happy live now and you too can. Stop advising friends wrongly cause you can make it work. Every difficult situations have solution. Don't use your own ill-treated relationship with your partner to determine the success and future of other people's relationship. You can be unlucky with your choice of partner that doesn't mean others will do the same, we are all different.
Believe me you can make your relationship work. All you have to do is study the weakness of your partner and help him or her to improve. Be the best you can to your partner,show him or her how precious they are to you and let them know you expect the same from them. It's good to be blunt in certain situation, be open and straight for the benefit of the future. Tell him or her that if no changes occur you will be saying good bye for good cuz the future is all that matters.
That being said,back to the main starting point about advising others wrongly. True love like you see in movies, read in novels etc truly exist. Many are just being unlucky meeting wrong partner. In everything in life, foundation matters. The questions are; What is the foundation of your relationship? Just giving it a try,Money,The Future... People goes into relationship for different reasons and that reasons determine the future of the relationship.
Just giving it a try can give birth to a true love relationship if your partner share same mindset and goals with you. There is more to it. And if it's for money, it may never last and trouble may arise in the near future. When trial comes the relationship may not stand the test of time. Sometimes people goes into relationship for the purpose of milking their partner and change their mindset base on the growth of the relationship. For example what you think of your partner may not be the real him or her personality. Many fake personality, time they say will tell. Yea about going into a relationship for the purpose of the future work and also does work sometimes. Time is of essence in relationships, but my advice is have a good intention and the spirit to make things work. Nothing good comes easy, but you can achieve set goals if you work towards them.
Make you partner your best friend. Secrets in relationship is the first step to an unfruitful future... Lies give birth to unfaithfulness and the more you try to cover your lies the more unfaithful you become and it takes just an unexpected situation to unwinds all what you've been hiding and that can lead to distrust and when your partner can not truth you then you need not to be in that relationship. First make up your mind, you are either meant to be together or not. It either you win or lose not draw in relationship except deceiving yourself. After setting up your mind, call your partner and tell him or her all your past lies,unfaithfulness and beg for forgiveness and accept what ever the outcome is. Tell him or her to feel free to share any secret he or she may be hiding too. This will restructured your relationship and trust for each other.
So, stop telling friends love doesn't exist ok. You can make it happen in your current relationship if you feel what you share is not an unconditional love. For those who have suffered heart breaks, give someone new a chance but be vigilant and hide nothing and don't get loosen. Define your purpose and reason for going into the relationship and not going into it because you don't want to be single.
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