BABY MAMA

Dear, the only reason you are in a university is to get a good education, boys are secondary, your education is primary, you need to get this clear lest you end up with a mismatched university calendar...... Your grade point cannot be dropping on account of a boy or emotional entanglement. If you attain every other thing on campus but you refuse to secure a good education what does it profit you! Seek first a good certificate and at this stage of your life, men are just addictive and that's the truth.

  This baby mama stuff is the latest trend today but believe me when I say becoming a baby mama is not as glamorous as it sounds, it will alter and change your life in ways you can't imagine, babies are not shoes that can be thrown out when you are tired of them, you are stick with them for the rest till you die! Even our parents are still stuck with us remember!. I know people say it’s an accident but let's be realistic, pregnancies don't come by accident.

 The truth is you are surrounded with active young men with raging hormones and at that stage, men think a lot about sex and these hormonal surges will still be in them for the next five decades so why rush! That's the reason why young men take off immediately they hear the word "I'm pregnant" because they suddenly realize they aren't ready for fatherhood. The issue of readiness for fatherhood is a big challenge for men, even married men! And the girl is the only one left with a bulging stomach and even our society is so hypocritical that the shame falls on the girl forgetting that the boy also had sex!

      The truth is your body will change and it cannot be the same again, you will have stretch marks and forget parties because your nice clothes won't fit anymore and your friends will whisper behind your back, gossips about you.......... Are you sure you can face that? And even after you become someone later in future people will still talk about you, they will judge your life like an experiment even though they are not innocent themselves.
  My advice for you, make friends but face your studies! Be focused and be wise. I remain your friend on the planet earth TADAL