Dear man,you are beginning to think about marriage, its nice to prepare mentally though I must warn you that no matter the preparation,it still has its own surprises. Marriage comes pre-loaded with responsibility for a man, you're going to be responsible for a full grown adult. A man must not only be able to meet his own needs, he must be able to meet the needs of his marriage as well, and you want your wife to respect you,not just love you. Respectability has dimensions,you want your wife to respect your sense of responsibility,your wisdom,your maturity,you want her to admire your approach to issues, your striving and aspirations,your worthiness in the society of men. Marriage is not for boys,it is for men.
A man auto-assumes certain responsibilities in marriage,like rent and feeding,if you don't pay rent or put down "housekeeping" money how are you going to gain respect? And when the kids come I expect you"ll pick up the tabs for school fees and children's upkeep too!. When you don't take up these basic responsibilities the woman is forced to step up to the plate and she becomes boss lady. I'm not saying a woman shouldn't contribute in a marriage, a wise woman would contribute to the success of her marriage and her husband but we must not confuse contribution with responsibility.
You have fundamental responsibility for certain headers, when you work hard to meet those obligations, your woman will respect you and your sense of responsibility, responsibility defines a man. It may not be easy at first,it isn't always easy,its why you need to work hard, you start somewhere and demonstrate where you're going, be focused, you have someone to impress remember!!!!
A woman might struggle with you and be there through the hard times but let me tell you the truth, it is just for sometime because all women appreciate comfort, you'll need to work hard, a young man must be hardworking, most men says" work smart and not hard" but what they don't know is that hard work brings success not smart work so work hard and not smart. I also want you to know that you are not going to get any award from any woman for working hard or just because you paid rent or put food on the table, You'll need to layer something on top if you want extra love and that's being real!!!.
Learn to spray your woman with gifts no matter how small,just start small and grow it so that when times are rough and let me assure you tough times will surely come, your wife will remember that you are a generous man that if you don't give its because you can't! And then she will pray for things to normalize because you are a generous man. But you'll discover as times goes by that being a man is not enough, you want to be THE MAN!
You want your wife to confidently say in the company of women that "don't worry,my husband will take care of it", you want her to have the assurance that no matter what she faces out there,when she gets home she can pour it out to you...... Your wife must be able to look up to you emotionally, this. Is very important. And now to the elusive feature on the wife choosing list.
When I ask young men what they really want in a marriage......... No one ever mentions PEACE and the best thing you can have in a marriage is PEACE, you can't have a HOME without PEACE but you can have a house or an apartment. You must understand the value of peace in the home. Many men work late and overtime at work because they are avoiding going home, she may be beautiful,homely, has a good character but if she can't give you peace then the others are very useless, because there is no use for all the achievements, fame and money if there's no peace at home. Lack of peace will turn your health and life into a misery.
You ought to want to go home at the end of each blessed day to see your wife! In essence strive to be responsible and strive to have a wholesome and loving relationship and I wish you the best in your search for that special partner!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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