RELATIONSHIP ADVICES FOR HIM AND HER

FOR HIM

  To get a wife,you must get a life,true love doesn't pay bills while your bright future won't pay for electricity and gas, there's a limit to how much a woman can endure pain all in the name of love. You don't need a lot of money to be with a woman who is truthfully and faithfully in love but when a man is not responsible most women will remove respect from love and the man becomes ordinary with no regards. No matter how much money or luxury you give to a woman:
» If she has to fight for attention,its never enough
» Every woman wants happiness but what makes them happy is different
» To know what makes her happy,try and know what makes her sad
» If you are not ready to give your best don't try the rest, because every woman in the world wants the best.
» Be true to yourself when looking for a wife
» Any relationship you start with a lie will always end you up in shame
» Never promise a woman what you can't give to her
» If you don't wanna marry her,don't put her life on hold
» Don't make her see you like her while deep inside you she's nothing to you
» There's no way you waste another person's life without your life been put on hold
» Love is not what you impose on people,never force a woman to love you
» If a woman loves you, the whole world can't condemn you for her and if she doesn't love you, the whole world can't convince her for you
»If she misses you,she will call you. If she wants you,she will say it. If she cares about you,she will show it. If she loves you,everybody will see it.
» If you are too possessive,she will runaway
» If you lack confidence,she will feel unsafe
» If she confides in you,she trusts you
»If you talk to much,she will feel you are loose
» If she can't stand you,her reactions will tell
» If you are not sensitive to her needs ,she will think you are not into her
» If she's done with you,nothing can make her stay
» If you don't propose after many years, your time is up
» What she wants from you will determine what she will give to you
» Do not be fooled by physical appearance,treat a woman the way she has never been treated in her life and nothing will make her leave you and if she mistakenly does, she will regret loosing a good man like you
»No woman wants to share her man with someone else
» If you can't be faithful to her,then don't waste her time

FOR HER
» To get a dream man, you must be a dream woman
»There's no such thing like a perfect human being,to be waiting for a perfect partner is to wait for life
» Be very mindful of your age when making plans
» Raise your standards and not your expectations, your standards is your good personality which attracts good men while your expectations is your high expectations which attracts fake men.
» If your expectations are too high, no man will be good enough, when no man is good enough, you end up waiting for long, and when you are tired of waiting , you may end up settling for less
» In a relationship, all men falls into four categories, A boy, a player, a confused man and a real man
» What you are looking for will determine what you get if you are being honest and truthful to yourself
» To know if he's for real,play the time game, if he gets you easily, he will leave quietly, if you are easy to get, you will be easier to forget
» Be flexible but be very sensible
» Avoid too much drama if you want a man, no man wants a shameless woman
» You can ask for a man's attention but never demand for his love
» You can never keep what you don't have
» If he shows you off to everyone at anywhere, he's still in love
» If he hasn't propose,he's doing research
» If he complains about your past, he's not ready for you
» If you make the first move,he will think you are desperate and cheap
» If you are afraid of him,you can never be free with him and if you are not free,it will be hard to get along.
» If he beats you once,he will beat you again
» If he doesn't propose after 5years,he may never propose for life.
» There's no point in good looks with a horrible heart
» Where a man's going is far better than where he stands in life.
» Age has nothing to do with maturity
» Growing old and growing up is never the same thing
» If he's not meant for you,he can never be for you
» Give him space and never choke him
» No man wants liability
» Marriage doesn't mean your life has to stop
» When you rely on a man for everything,be ready to accept anything he throws at you.

THE UNAVAILABLE MEN

I'm here to tackle this online dating scene,men who portrays themselves as "wounded and emotionally unavailable" are often just looking for sex. I always encourage men to be more honest with what they want and not rely on "code" to communicate their intentions.
  I'm left wondering,"yeah,ok......... Why do you suppose that line worked so well for so long?" Is it possible that men who portray themselves this way [whether they are or not] tend to elicit a vulnerable/emphatic response from women that often leads to sex? Is it possible that there's nothing more attractive than the thing/person you can't have? Um,yeah. Its a gross generalization of course but it reflects a set of beliefs that are relatively common.
  The myths and misconceptions regarding the ability of good women to change bad men have been proven untrue for millenniums and yet they are the disgustingly theme of lifetime! Good women meets tragically heartbroken men who hides their vulnerability behind the facade of being an asshole,she loves him into being a man who is emotionally available! The thought process seems to be,"his ex was a mean girl and hurt him in a number of ways,he just needs a good woman,if he falls in love with me,HE WILL CHANGE"

  Perhaps there is a time in our youth when we believe the fodder of dick flicks and the myth of "happily ever after"

  As a therapist,here's what I see! The type of people we grew up with are the kind of folks we're most familiar connecting to and we tend to gravitate towards people like them later in life because we feel comfortable relating in well known ways.

  Each of us has a story and unfortunately,many of us are seeking a different ending to a familiar tale. I have seen many good women be with men who are absolutely terrified of showing emotion,appearing 'weak'/vulnerable and who are terrified of intimacy. This of course leads to unsatisfying relationships. The reasons why so many men are this way is a subject for another day.

  SIGNS OF AN UNAVAILABLE MAN
~ he doesn't follow through with what he said he would do.
~ the amount of time he spends at work leaves little time for anything else
~he lives very far away
~ the work he does is unfulfilling
~ he spends an inordinate amount of time with his parents
~the way he talks about his ex reveals anger,resentment and blame
~he wants to spend 24hours with you right away and is choking you up with calls or texts
~he seems to be too needy of your approval and praise
~after several dates,he is actually dating someone else
~he is depressed