How to Tell if He’s Serious about You

Is he serious about you or does he have a fling thing in mind? 
Find out how to tell if he’s serious about you and your relationship with these tips.


Do you think you’re seeing the perfect man with whom you want to spend the rest of your life?

Is he thinking along the same lines?

He may pamper you with gifts and little nothings, but does he really love you enough to look at you as a long term girlfriend or potential partner for life?

Sometimes it’s not the proclamations of love or the dozen red roses that says “I love you”.

How to tell if he’s serious about you

Body language is the secret, powerful method of communication through which we communicate more than half of what we actually mean.

So is your man truly in love with you, or is it just for the moment?

If you’re in a new relationship and can’t understand if he’s really into you, watch out for these oh-so-subtle ways that can help you find out if he’s serious about you.


Does your man really love you enough to look at you as a long-term partner potential. Find out here.

#1 While watching TV

Understandably, you can’t tear your eyes away from McSteamy on your favorite show, but notice all of your man’s subtle body cues while you’re watching the telly.

Is his arm around you in a protective gesture? That means he wants to take care of you. He clasps your hand while interlacing fingers, it shows that he wants to have an intimate connection.

#2 While you’re with his friends

If his arm is around your shoulders, he’s signaling to his friends and other males around that you belong to him in a gesture that brings out the caveman in him. If it’s around your waist, he is telling them that you are a keeper.

#3 When you’re at his place

Guys are natural slobs with a few exceptions. Only in movies do bachelor pads have perfectly coordinated furniture and scented candles. In reality, the main attraction at a bachelor pad is the beer can pyramid. So if he makes an effort to clear up the mess in his room, then he’s decided you’re worth the once-a-year spring cleaning he gives his room.

He might stop doing this after a while which only shows he’s comfortable enough with you to be himself.

The ultimate sign that he has white picket fences in mind is if he lets you leave your random girlie objects around the house, and no, toothbrush doesn’t count. That is mostly regarded as an essential part of oral hygiene. But if he’s okay with your pink yoga mat in the living room or your mirror cushions on the bed, pat yourself on the back, you’re in!

#4 When you’re at dinner

Your filet mignon may be delicious but keep your eyes peeled to check cues that your guy is in it for the long haul. As Joey from ‘Friends’ may tell you, guys don’t like sharing food. What’s on their plate is theirs, so don’t you dare even try and flick a fry.

But if your man is willing to share his plate with you or offers you a bite, he is opening up his personal space to you and wants to be intimate. Alternately, if he starts moving his plates and glasses around, he’s trying to reduce the space between you both and wants to get closer.

#5 When it’s just you and him

In the early stages of love, neither partner can keep their hands off the other. But whatever the stage, if he likes to hold you with his arms around you, hands resting on your belly, then he’s subconsciously decided that you are the mother of his children.

Another show of love when you’re together is how he falls asleep. Once he’s in a deep slumber, he instinctively either moves toward you or moves away, claiming his space at his end of the bed. It doesn’t take a genius to figure this one out. Also, if he reaches for you the minute he gets up, it literally means you’re the first thing on his mind when he wakes up!

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22 Obvious Signs a Guy Loves You

Men don’t really have a good track record when it comes to expressing how they feel for someone, so how can you tell if a guy loves you?


Men can tell it like it is when discussing anything – except their feelings.

Some men are just really uncomfortable when the topic of emotions comes up while some are just looking for some assurance that they won’t be turned down when they finally open up.

How can you tell if he has genuine feelings for you? No worry, after studying men’s behavior we prepared the below list of 22 definite signs. Just read them

22 Signs He Really Loves You

1. He pays attention and remembers what you say

When you’re getting to know each other, you get to talk about a lot of random things. If a guy is in love with you, he really pays attention and he will remember not only the important things you say, but even random stuff you may have mentioned.

2. He lets you know what’s happening in his life

Men need space to do their own thing, but if a guy is in love with you he’ll let you know what he’s up to even if you don’t ask him. It doesn’t mean that he’ll let you tag along, but he will let you know where he’s going and who he’s with without having to beat it out of him.

3. He puts you first

Whether it’s choosing what movie to watch or where to have dinner, he will put your wants and needs ahead of his. He’ll take you to your favorite Japanese restaurant even if he hates sushi, and he won’t complain about it.

4. He listens

Men aren’t known for being good listeners, but if a man is in love with you, he will. He’ll listen to your stories and your rants. He’ll ask you how your day was and he’ll pay attention to every little detail.

5. He makes plans with you

It doesn’t matter whether your man is the spontaneous type or the type who plans everything before making a move, if he starts talking about a future with you, you’ll know he’s in love with you.

6. His attention is all on you

When you’re in a party or any kind of public or social gathering, a man in love won’t notice that hot blonde that just passed by because his eyes are stuck on you.

7. He makes time for you

Yes, he’s busy, and yes, you are interrupting something important, but he won’t mind. Okay, maybe he will, but he will welcome the distraction and spend a little time with you before he goes back to whatever it is he’s doing.

8. He’ll defend you

His friends think you’re all wrong for him, but if he’s really in love with you, he’ll stand up for you and defend your relationship. ‘Nuff said.

9. He opens up to you

A man needs to have an emotional connection with someone before he opens up about his feelings, his problems, and what his plans are for the future. If he trusts you and feels comfortable enough to let you know about these things, then he’s most likely in love with you.

10. He’s always there for you

A man in love will drop everything when the object of his affection needs him. When you’re in in a tough spot and you need help, or if you need someone to comfort you when you’re feeling sad, he’ll always be by your side.

11. He worries about you

If you’re driving home alone, or if you’re taking a trip with your friends, the last thing you hear from him before you say goodbye is “Call me when you get there so I know you’re okay.”

12. What you think is important to him

A man who is in love with you values your opinions. He wants to know your take on things and he may ask you what you think before he makes an important decision in his life.

13. He doesn’t let you out of his sight

Men are already territorial by nature, so can you imagine how a man in love would react when there are other guys who are trying to get your attention? He’ll put his arms around you more than usual to make sure that the other guys see that you’re off-limits.

14. He wants to spend more time with you

A man who’s in love with you would want to spend more time with you. You’ll find yourself talking to him more often and he’ll find and use every excuse in the book just to see you.

15. He smiles at you for no reason

It may seem like a random act of flirting for you, but for a man in love, he can’t help but stare and smile at the girl who makes his heart skip a beat.

16. Your annoying quirks are what endear you to him

Everyone has one or two annoying habits that can turn people off, but if he’s in love with you, he won’t mind. In fact, it might be what he loves about you.

17. He puts you ahead of his friends

What?! Is this even possible? Yes, it is. If he’s in love with you, he’ll want to spend more time with you even if his friends think he’s being a wuss.

18. He uses the word “We” or “Us” more often

Guys often don’t realize they’re doing this, but when they’re in love with someone, they usually substitute “I” or “Me” with “We” or “Us” when talking about what’s going in his life or his plans for the future. This just means you’re already a part of his life. [Read - 7 Obvious Signs He Is Ready To Commit]

19. He becomes more touchy-feely when he’s around you

Guys who aren’t big on public displays of affection are more open to it when he’s in love with the woman he’s with.

20. He tries to impress your friends and family

A man in love knows that he has to make a good impression on your friends and family, and he does what he can for them to like him.

21. He apologizes

If a man is in love with you, he doesn’t want you to be mad at him. He will apologize immediately if he’s done something to offend you.

22. Your voice is the last thing he wants to hear at night

He calls you up before he goes to bed. Need I say more?

Every man is different, but falling in love can make them do things that are out of character. If the guy you’re dating suddenly shows any of these signs, then chances are he is already falling in love with you.

Ten Signs He Really Loves You

Do you want to know whether he really loves you? There are so many telltale signs that will indicate your boyfriend really cares about you, but here are the top ten sure signs to check whether your relationship will stand the test of time.

1. He Looks Into Your Eyes When You Talk
This sign is all about the body language. If he looks into your eyes when you talk, you know he is paying full attention to you. Obviously, this is not always practical for every conversation, especially if you are driving somewhere. However, whenever you really want to have a heart to heart discussion, he gives you his full attention, by turning his body towards you, and watching the expression on your face. This is a sign he wants to know what you are really thinking.

2. He Wants To Know About You
If your boyfriend asks about your past, your dreams, your desires (not just sexual), your wants, your needs, how you feel inspired, what you love, or anything about you that relates to your thoughts intimately as an individual, you can be very sure that he wants what is best for you. This is a very good indication he loves you.

3. He Gives You Cuddles and Caresses
While touch is more important to some people than others, casual touches that are not necessarily sexual in nature are definitely signs he is letting you know that he loves you. If he wants to hold your hand when you walk anywhere together, you can be sure he is saying with his body language that he wants to be with you.

4. He Can Comfort You When You Have a Bad Day
This is one of the most important indicators of a relationship that will stand the test of time. If you feel you can automatically turn to him when 'times are tuff', and he is able to give you comfort and help you to feel better, not worse, you have a guy who really loves you. If he gets uncomfortable when you are upset, or doesn't know what will comfort you, he is not really putting you first in the relationship. If he at least tries to comfort you, there is hope for the future.

5. He Gives You the Best Presents
Presents do not have to be expensive to be heartfelt. A present can be as simple as an email, a homemade card, or a wildflower picked from the roadside. The essence of this sign is that whenever he does give you a present, whether it is for a special event such as a birthday, or if it is just an off the cuff small gift, it is a gift that means something to you personally. He shows he cares about you by the depth of thought that goes into what you will like and he delights in giving you gifts that you just love.

6. He Makes You Feel Special
Giving you compliments about how beautiful you look is one way he will make you to feel special. It may just be that simple phone call, an email, or even a formal love letter. Whatever he does, he wants to give you pleasure and to build you up as a person. He wants to make you feel like you are the most wonderful woman in the world.

7. He Wants You to Meet His Friends and Wants to Meet Yours
Meeting friends is about wanting to be a part of each other's lives. If he wants to meet your friends, and spends time getting to know the people who are important in your life, he really does love you. If he enjoys being with your friends, and makes you feel comfortable and a part of the group when you are with his friends, you can be sure he wants to be in your life for a long time.

8. He Makes You Laugh and Enjoy Life
You actually look forward to spending time with him, because you know you will have fun. Being able to laugh together and have fun is part of every good relationship. If he cannot share the joy of life with you easily, he won't be able to cope with the hard times that will inevitably come your way too. Even in the difficult times, he somehow can make you smile, through your tears. This is because he loves you and wants you to be happy. He gets a joy from seeing the excitement and pleasure in your expression, so he works to make you laugh.

9. He Loves Spending Time with You
He treats you as his best friend. He can be quite happy spending time with just the two of you, and doesn't have to have a million other people around all the time. He makes excuses to see you, and just thoroughly enjoys being around you. He tells you his own thoughts, dreams, and is able to share ideas with you comfortably. He also turns to you when he is sad, or needs comfort too.

10. He Says He Loves You
Okay, it can be very easy to say those three words "I love you", but if he says it when you are not expecting it, or if he says it first, he wants to tell you that he really cares about you. If he only says I love you when he wants to be physically intimate with you, or if you always say it first, and he only says it in reply, because that is what you expect, he may not really care deeply. He may not even need to say the words, because he knows you know how he feels about you, but just has to say it anyway.

If you see evidence of these ten signs in your relationship, and you know the signs are done without purpose or gain, your relationship is built on the foundation of true love. You can be sure of your relationship when he truly wants to please you, and honestly shows that he enjoys being with you in many ways.

How to Know the Difference Between Love, Infatuation and Lust

Whether you're in a relationship already or whether you're admiring someone from afar, sorting out your feelings can be a real challenge. While there's no clear, fool-proof way to decipher your feelings for someone, there are certain ways to make the distinction clearer for yourself. Follow these tips to help yourself to know the difference between love, infatuation and lust.

Steps

Part 1: How to Recognize True Love

1.Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing. You care for this person even knowing his or her faults. You are committed to sticking together even through the most difficult circumstances. You can tell this person anything about yourself, even if the truth doesn't flatter you, and you know that your partner will accept you.

2.Evaluate how secure you feel. You know that your partner will stand by you no matter what, and you are prepared to commit to your partner for the rest of your life.

3.Think about how long you've been in the relationship. You have known the person for a long time, and you can't imagine life without him or her.

4.Observe how sex affects your feelings. After you have sex with your partner, you feel closer to him or her. For you, affection and post-coital cuddling are just as important as sex, although you love to keep the flame alive.

5.Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. Something funny has happened to you at work, and you can't wait to tell your partner. Alternatively, you've had a bad experience, and you want to talk to someone who will understand. If your partner is the first person that you think about when you want to share your innermost thoughts, then you may be in love.

6.Look at how you handle conflict. When you have an argument with your partner, you keep working until you're able to find some common ground. No argument can erase your commitment to one another, and you appreciate your partner speaking the truth even when it's painful.

7.Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward. You feel comfortable with your partner, and you feel a strong bond of trust. Moving in together or getting married feels natural and logical.

Part 2: How to Know if You're Infatuated

1.Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing. When you experience infatuation, your mind is consumed by thoughts of the other person. You're thinking not only about the other person but also about how you want to reveal yourself to the other person. You have an idealized vision of what this person is like, and your vision may or may not be accurate.

2.Evaluate how secure you feel. Instead of feeling secure, you are thinking more about how to impress the other person. Your focus is on how to get the other person to like you, and you feel nervous because you don't know how the other person feels.

3.Think about how long you've been in the relationship. Your relationship is pretty new, and while you're constantly thinking about the other person, you're not confident that he or she has what it takes to go the distance.

4.Observe how sex affects your feelings. Sex is exciting, but you feel tentative afterward. You worry about whether your partner found you appealing, and you worry about what the next step after sex will be.

5.Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. You think constantly about the way that the person smiles, the way he or she says your name or the way that your partner looks at you. You think obsessively about these details, and you try to decide how the person feels about you based on these somewhat trivial qualities.

6.Look at how you handle conflict. The person you like disagrees with you, and you wonder if the relationship is over. You wonder whether you know the person at all or whether your impressions have been wrong all along.

7.Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward. You want to ask the person to date exclusively, but you're nervous about what he or she might say. You're afraid that asking for commitment may frighten the person away. Your feelings aren't deep enough for love; you're probably more in the realm of infatuation.

Part 3: When You're Feeling Hot, Bothered and in Lust

1.Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing. If you're looking to catch someone as a prize or to get someone to go to bed with you, you're treating the person like a thing, and you're probably experiencing lust.

2.Evaluate how secure you feel. Security isn't important to you; you're more interested in the score and in how great it feels to be physical together. After you get what you want, you can take or leave the other person.

3.Think about how long you've been in the relationship. You may just be meeting the person you're interested in, or you may have known the person for a long time. In either situation, the relationship is more about fulfilling your sexual desires than it is about creating a partnership.

4.Observe how sex affects your feelings. You have sex with the person, and even though it's great, your mind has already moved onto something else. You wonder how long you have to hold the person afterward, and you're already thinking about scoring your next sexual encounter. Or you want to keep having sex with the person--at least, until somebody else comes along.

5.Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. You're trying to figure out what you have to do to get this person to invite you up for a nightcap. Your focus is on knocking down the person's guard so that he or she will be open to a sexual encounter.

6.Look at how you handle conflict. Who cares if you have an argument? You can find someone new without the hassle of bickering and fighting. The sex is great, but it's not worth the baggage--unless it's make-up sex after one of those passionate arguments.

7.Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward. In reality, you could care less about getting exclusive with your partner. You're satisfied to date other people, and you don't care if the other person also has multiple partners. Even though you may feel jealous if your lover finds another partner, your lack of commitment suggests lust, not love.

Tips

Friendship should also weigh into your decision to commit. In 50 years, if you don't genuinely like your mate, you're going to be miserable.
Know that there will be bumps in the road. And if you're truly in love, it won't matter.
Don't expect the person to change for you.
Don't look for someone perfect, because no one is exactly perfect. The only perfect person is the perfect person for YOU.

SETTING BOUNDARIES IN RELATIONSHIPS

I have heard of very ridiculous things people accept from their partners just to keep their relationships and to keep their partners from walking away and I find it rather unnecessary because I have learnt that when people want to walk away from you,let them walk;there is no point reducing yourself to a doormat just because you want to keep a relationship!I find that one of the reasons why people do this is because they believe no one else will love them as much as: which is rather ridiculous because the person that has fallen out of love with them,loved them initially,so what stops someone better from loving them?the truth is we all have to learn to know when peoples part in our story is over;if you have to talk someone into loving and caring for you,then leave them(well,except of course you are already on the other side of the altar) your destiny is not tied to the person who has left;people leave because they are not joined to you,let them go,don't wait until you get to that point when you lose your self esteem,respect and confidence before you decide to let them take their leave.