HOW TO CHOOSE A MARRIAGE PARTNER

You want to know what you should take into consideration in choosing a marriage partner,then,I will teach you how to buy a computer and how to use it.

  A computer is made up of parts, isn't it? There's hardware,operating system, there are the applications. Only a fool buys a computer based on just the casing,what's inside is the computer matters. Casing makes the computer attractive and they come in different forms,some are slim.some are bulky,some are black while some are brown it all depends on your taste.

On this same computer are applications like word and excel,in human terms,this applications will be things like cooking and being homely e.t.c they are just applications now you know that these applications cannot run without an operating system, the operating system of a computer has been  there from the start when it was built, it was along the line that applications can be installed on the computer base on choice and you know that these applications cannot run without an operating system, don't you?

  Operating system is the key,if I were you,I will pay attention to the operating system of a computer
and in human terms this operating system will be the philosophy of life, values, beliefs, faith, exposure, education because they determine character,attitude and behaviour.

An application may be wonderful but if the operating system is full of bugs the application will
malfunction. If a problem is coming from the operating system it will be obvious because its the root.
Imagine a beautiful laptop with a messed up operating system,that's like a beautiful woman with a
bad character isn't it?  But do you know that an operating system is also useless without applications, what's the use of MAC OS without word or excel or even office? The philosophy, beliefs and values of a potential partner are very critical. We are all stuffed with different files: knowledge, virtue, goodness..  But some people are stored with pain and bitterness. Theses are large files either and they corrupt other files, they are full of bugs, well known viruses! Be careful!

 Now about the computer screen,what is projected on the screen is usually sales pitch,animation and stuffs, they are just promotional stuff,they are mostly fake, don't just buy a computer on the
recommendation of someone, the computer is going home with you not him! Run your checks, do due
diligence, ask questions and don't ignore warnings when buying a computer. But you know you must love your computer to care for it very well, hmmmmm....love. Love is important . This is just few tips on how to buy a computer and how to choose a marriage partner!

Make it a date with me for more relationship issues.

Thanks.

GRAY AREAS IN RELATIONSHIPS

                       GRAY AREAS IN RELATIONSHIPS

Have you ever been stuck in the gray area in your relationship? You know,when you have a huge disagreement and you both never came to a compromise. The problem was never solved and you ended the discussion without knowing what's going to happen next,he goes home and you didn't stop him. Days goes by, and you refuse to call him because you are sick and tired of being the one to make the first move. He doesn't call too because he felt you over-reacted and his ego won't allow him to apologize.

  This can go on for days and sometimes weeks, you go about your days wondering where you stand with him and if this is a break-up or not. This leads to assumptions on both ends. He wonders if you are seeing someone else,while you are having the same thoughts, however instead of addressing the issues,you both just remain in the gray area.

  This is a dangerous area to be in a relationship. Because it gives rooms for assumptions that can lead to worse problems. There is no communication and without this, how will you know what your mate is feeling? There is no possible way.

  Relationships should be kept in black and white at all times, always keep the lines of communication open where you can feel free and safe to express yourself. Its important that you don't allow your partner to assume what's going on in your head, because chances are this will not work in your favour, never go to bed with unresolved issues. They will not go away just because you both choose to have sex and ignore them. This is what happens,I know because I have been guilty of this before, address your problems in an appropriate manner so you can come to a mutual understanding and compromise.

    Know where you both stand with eachother,afterall the relationship is about the both of you ,right? It doesn't affect just one person.its OK to give your mate space, however, you must establish what it is. Space doesn't mean freewill to see other people.this is not an avenue to sleep around. Its time to think things through on your own. This is normally just for a few days or weeks. Nonetheless,this is something both parties must agree upon and should only be done with the intentions to make the relationship stronger.as long as you keep this in mind, you will always avoid being in the gray area.

    Sometimes its hard to submit. You want to always be right and have the last word. In times like this, you find it impossible to compromise because you feel as though you are given in.when you are faced with this kind of situation, instead of just dropping the issue unresolved, agree to disagree. Then at a more appropriate time , you can bring the issue up again, you will find that you can come to a better understanding without all the pressure.

  Relationships are healthier when it is in black and white. You will always know where you stand and where you are headed with your mate, its either good or bad,happy or sad, but never in-between.

RELATIONSHIP ADVICES FOR HIM AND HER

FOR HIM

  To get a wife,you must get a life,true love doesn't pay bills while your bright future won't pay for electricity and gas, there's a limit to how much a woman can endure pain all in the name of love. You don't need a lot of money to be with a woman who is truthfully and faithfully in love but when a man is not responsible most women will remove respect from love and the man becomes ordinary with no regards. No matter how much money or luxury you give to a woman:
» If she has to fight for attention,its never enough
» Every woman wants happiness but what makes them happy is different
» To know what makes her happy,try and know what makes her sad
» If you are not ready to give your best don't try the rest, because every woman in the world wants the best.
» Be true to yourself when looking for a wife
» Any relationship you start with a lie will always end you up in shame
» Never promise a woman what you can't give to her
» If you don't wanna marry her,don't put her life on hold
» Don't make her see you like her while deep inside you she's nothing to you
» There's no way you waste another person's life without your life been put on hold
» Love is not what you impose on people,never force a woman to love you
» If a woman loves you, the whole world can't condemn you for her and if she doesn't love you, the whole world can't convince her for you
»If she misses you,she will call you. If she wants you,she will say it. If she cares about you,she will show it. If she loves you,everybody will see it.
» If you are too possessive,she will runaway
» If you lack confidence,she will feel unsafe
» If she confides in you,she trusts you
»If you talk to much,she will feel you are loose
» If she can't stand you,her reactions will tell
» If you are not sensitive to her needs ,she will think you are not into her
» If she's done with you,nothing can make her stay
» If you don't propose after many years, your time is up
» What she wants from you will determine what she will give to you
» Do not be fooled by physical appearance,treat a woman the way she has never been treated in her life and nothing will make her leave you and if she mistakenly does, she will regret loosing a good man like you
»No woman wants to share her man with someone else
» If you can't be faithful to her,then don't waste her time

FOR HER
» To get a dream man, you must be a dream woman
»There's no such thing like a perfect human being,to be waiting for a perfect partner is to wait for life
» Be very mindful of your age when making plans
» Raise your standards and not your expectations, your standards is your good personality which attracts good men while your expectations is your high expectations which attracts fake men.
» If your expectations are too high, no man will be good enough, when no man is good enough, you end up waiting for long, and when you are tired of waiting , you may end up settling for less
» In a relationship, all men falls into four categories, A boy, a player, a confused man and a real man
» What you are looking for will determine what you get if you are being honest and truthful to yourself
» To know if he's for real,play the time game, if he gets you easily, he will leave quietly, if you are easy to get, you will be easier to forget
» Be flexible but be very sensible
» Avoid too much drama if you want a man, no man wants a shameless woman
» You can ask for a man's attention but never demand for his love
» You can never keep what you don't have
» If he shows you off to everyone at anywhere, he's still in love
» If he hasn't propose,he's doing research
» If he complains about your past, he's not ready for you
» If you make the first move,he will think you are desperate and cheap
» If you are afraid of him,you can never be free with him and if you are not free,it will be hard to get along.
» If he beats you once,he will beat you again
» If he doesn't propose after 5years,he may never propose for life.
» There's no point in good looks with a horrible heart
» Where a man's going is far better than where he stands in life.
» Age has nothing to do with maturity
» Growing old and growing up is never the same thing
» If he's not meant for you,he can never be for you
» Give him space and never choke him
» No man wants liability
» Marriage doesn't mean your life has to stop
» When you rely on a man for everything,be ready to accept anything he throws at you.

THE UNAVAILABLE MEN

I'm here to tackle this online dating scene,men who portrays themselves as "wounded and emotionally unavailable" are often just looking for sex. I always encourage men to be more honest with what they want and not rely on "code" to communicate their intentions.
  I'm left wondering,"yeah,ok......... Why do you suppose that line worked so well for so long?" Is it possible that men who portray themselves this way [whether they are or not] tend to elicit a vulnerable/emphatic response from women that often leads to sex? Is it possible that there's nothing more attractive than the thing/person you can't have? Um,yeah. Its a gross generalization of course but it reflects a set of beliefs that are relatively common.
  The myths and misconceptions regarding the ability of good women to change bad men have been proven untrue for millenniums and yet they are the disgustingly theme of lifetime! Good women meets tragically heartbroken men who hides their vulnerability behind the facade of being an asshole,she loves him into being a man who is emotionally available! The thought process seems to be,"his ex was a mean girl and hurt him in a number of ways,he just needs a good woman,if he falls in love with me,HE WILL CHANGE"

  Perhaps there is a time in our youth when we believe the fodder of dick flicks and the myth of "happily ever after"

  As a therapist,here's what I see! The type of people we grew up with are the kind of folks we're most familiar connecting to and we tend to gravitate towards people like them later in life because we feel comfortable relating in well known ways.

  Each of us has a story and unfortunately,many of us are seeking a different ending to a familiar tale. I have seen many good women be with men who are absolutely terrified of showing emotion,appearing 'weak'/vulnerable and who are terrified of intimacy. This of course leads to unsatisfying relationships. The reasons why so many men are this way is a subject for another day.

  SIGNS OF AN UNAVAILABLE MAN
~ he doesn't follow through with what he said he would do.
~ the amount of time he spends at work leaves little time for anything else
~he lives very far away
~ the work he does is unfulfilling
~ he spends an inordinate amount of time with his parents
~the way he talks about his ex reveals anger,resentment and blame
~he wants to spend 24hours with you right away and is choking you up with calls or texts
~he seems to be too needy of your approval and praise
~after several dates,he is actually dating someone else
~he is depressed

How to Please a Woman; From Dating to Doing it!

Many men fall into two categories; ones who know everything there is to know about women and others who throw their hands up in the air and say 'Beats me, I know nothing'! Maybe you're older and know them well enough by now, or perhaps your credentials include an impressive number of women you've slept with. But don't forget women are 90% brain and 10% sex organ- basically our brain is our sex organ. So if you think you know women because you've slept with a lot, you really only know 10% of a woman- not that impressive.

If you think you know women because you've been with a woman for many years and you know her inside and out, you may be surprised. Women change with each change of their life, they change more often than men do, sometimes with every season. You should know that just by how many times they change clothes a day. When she becomes a mother her needs change, when she works she changes, hormones change over time...you get the point. It may be hard to imagine, but do you really know her at all anymore? Long relationships require tune-ups and maintenance.

I want to start from dating, to maintaining a relationship, and of course sex. I'm covering a lot of ground here and we both know going in that men and women are hopelessly different creatures, but this is why my guide can't possibly hurt you. What are my credentials? I am a woman, I've listened to many women about their issues, I've been to marriage counseling, I've dated several men, and I have a psychology background with many courses featuring human sexuality and relationship counseling. And yet I realize having a woman tell you what to do sounds vaguely familiar to your mom, but put the past to rest and believe me...I am not your mom!

Dating

Speed courting? If I had it my way, we'd forget about the new modern ways of dating and return to the days of courting. When a man walked a woman home, got to know her family as well as her, and took a drive in the country...minus the quick and dirty romp in the backseat.

We've gone from chivalrous gestures, a kiss on the hand, to "winks" and "pokes" on a dating site. I just don't like the idea of a stranger poking me. Women as well as men are impatient about finding their match now because they're waiting so long in life to do it. We suddenly realize half of our 30's passed by and we might want to share our life with a significant other, like now!

While courting is almost irrelevant in today's world, it has it's place if used correctly. Do me a favor and watch an old movie, observe how the man approaches the woman and her reaction, and how the relationship proceeds from there. The trick is you can still go fast, but learn to go slow in all the right areas. The right areas include:

• Figure out if you've got chemistry- if you're using a dating site, the sooner you meet in person, the better. Most people can determine whether they have chemistry right away.
• Let her know you are into her, not just friends. As a woman, I can tell you that if I don't know for sure you are into me, you're in the friend zone quickly.
• Kiss us damn it! A woman who usually doesn't like kissing soon in a relationship will state this up front early on. That being said- kiss us ideally on the second date and no later than third or fourth. Women usually want the deal sealed with a kiss- that is the number one way we can tell if we are into you (it's all in the kiss).
• Don't skip the flirting. Flirting is foreplay.

Don't date above your means. This isn't a status statement or whether she's too good or not good enough for you. This is economics. If you don't have 5-star money, don't take a girl on a date to a 5-star restaurant. She may expect it all the time or it may mislead her about your finances and her expectations of you. For some women, finances are important. If you date within your financial means then you can weed out some of the gold diggers or status stalkers. A single rose is just as thoughtful (and less expensive) as a dozen...to the right woman.

Honestly it kind of freaks out some women when you overdo it for the first few dates. It makes her think you expect something in return or wonder how do you know you like her enough to spend so much or do so much.

Ask her questions. Your genuine interest in her and getting to really know her will be helpful in the bedroom. Trust me on this fellas. It's OK to start with generic questions in the beginning of dating. It's not OK to ask too personal questions in the beginning though. Getting to know her will also help you plan future dates with her, knowing what she likes to do.

Men tend to turn dating into an interview of themselves. They talk about their job, their interests, places they've traveled, everything they should be asking her. She is great at acting interested in you for endless hours, but deep down she is wondering when you will notice her or if you find her interesting at all. It's a turn off.

Put some of your needs aside. If you make the initial dating ritual about her, she will repay you two-fold later. Dating really is for women mostly; we need some kind of connection and men would rather connect physically right away without all the dating rituals. They almost know instantly whether they would sleep with you or not.

Relationships

Be her rock. Women are naturally anxious creatures and why is this? We have peripheral vision, we are psychic, but really we see everything going on around us in the moment and we remember everything from the past to what we forecast (and worry about) in the future. A woman will get stressed inevitably and part of your job is recognizing the signals because today's superwoman won't admit defeat or stress and men have a natural ability to see one task and one thing at a time- use this to calm and comfort her.

I seriously see more women nowadays putting things back together and solving the problems in the family. Men have taken a back seat role to problem solving. The woman is now feeling that she is the one that has to have a back-up plan and put things together when they unravel. It's important to jump in and maintain an active role in this, even if she says you've done it wrong. And she will because she's been doing it her way for so long. You must break this pattern. Sooner or later she will relax a little. Deep down inside every woman needs a knight in shining armor or a superhero to the rescue. At the end of the day she needs someone to fall back on. Even if you're not and alpha male you can play a supporting role.

Respect her differences even if you don't understand them. You may never understand her love of scrapbooking or which dishes are only for decoration, but that will work in your favor. Someday when you actually want her out of your hair or you need to watch your football game, she can entertain herself with her scrapbooking or silly things like that.

If you make yourself the center of her universe, she will ultimately bug you to death. If you are controlling, then she will likely give up her hobbies and the quirks that make her unique. You really don't want her doing that because there will be times you want your space and if she's made you her world, then you will never get that peace.

Keep it going. Dating needs to continue after you've begun a serious relationship or marriage. I know men want to be done with dating because they already "got the girl" (that conquering thing), but relationships need to be kept in your "maintenance" file. She should never be in your outgoing pile. This is the type of work that needs to be kept up on and maintained for as long as you have the job. Some of your basic duties at work are daily or at least consistent, well, think of your woman as that. You need to keep up with them if you want to keep your job and you need to date your woman if you want to get the most out of your relationship.

Arguments

If she's worth fighting for, fight for her! Chase after her. If you've ever seen any romance movie (the ideal world for a woman) you'd know the man always chases her down in the end and humbly professes his love. A woman wants to know a man will fight for her. She wants to see that you want to make things better. If you love your job and were on probation for something at work, you'd do all it took to salvage it.

Actions speak louder than words. If you've said you'll change and you don't, if you've said your sorry but do it again, you've become a man not of your word. In today's society a man is deemed for his qualities on the outside (money, car, appearance). The man of decades ago, was one that was deemed a man by his inner qualities (integrity, responsibility).

A woman will see you in a lesser light if you consistently act against your words. She won't believe in you anymore. I believe (a wild guess) that men want more than anything to be respected. A way to earn respect is being a man of your word. Even your boss would ultimately fire you if you always promised certain work but never delivered or if you gave lame excuses for lack of action.

Whoa! One at a time! Arguments with women tend to turn into a snowball effect (OK an avalanche) of one hundred things at once and it gets very overwhelming. During this time ask her if she could pick one thing at a time to discuss and if that one thing seems small (use good judgement here) then ask her what's really bothering her. Chances are it's one big thing, maybe even unrelated to you, but she needs to vent. Expect and accept that part of being with a woman, involves listening.

Nagging is important! I'm on your side guys. If it seems you hear the same thing over and over, you should just listen, but not to the words coming out of her mouth. Yes, I just said that! The words coming out of her mouth can often feel like she is degrading you or changing you. Listen to what is really going on. She feels hurt because somehow you triggered something in her that reminds her of another time when she was hurt. This isn't your fault, but you can do something about it.

If she is repeating herself, it means she doesn't feel like you heard her the first dozen times. If it's something she'd like you to change or help her with, think about it, come to a compromise; Ask her what 3 things you can do for her, and choose one. As corny as it sounds, a woman and man are meant to compliment each other, help each other where one is strong and the other is weak, and teach each other things.

If all else fails, give her chocolate.

Sex

This is a guide about women written by a woman and I saved the best for last.

Experience isn't everything. My number one pet peeve about men is even a sexually confident woman like myself could give a man a few subtle and sexy hints about how to please me, but they would always revert back to doing things that please themselves or doing it their way.

For the longest time, my friends would ask me why I dated younger men when older men were more experienced. My answer was simple; younger men are willing to learn and they're not stuck in their ways yet. If you have been with a woman for a while, she has probably given up showing you how to please her (or perhaps you already do- thumbs up!), but it doesn't hurt to ask her. If you're in a new sexual encounter, listen to her about what pleases her...listen good. Ask if she's not letting you know...ask her if this orthat pleases her. If you hate to ask or verbalize, then pay attention to body language; slight pulling away means stop, pushing forward mean go.

Don't announce or hastily elude to your erection, saying something like "I'm hard baby". Women pretty much know you are turned on at least 2 minutes into a groping session. In the meager amount of time it takes a man to get an erection, the woman is still ten steps behind.

Start with the woman. Simple math will tell you that if it takes longer for a woman to get aroused than a man, then start with the woman. Sex doesn't begin with your erection- that's not the only signal for fun. The average woman needs 20 minutes to warm up, start with her 20 minutes before yourself.

Watching porn. This is a very mixed-feelings topic. What is too much, what hurts the relationship, does the woman find it totally offensive? First, never be a closet watcher- yes, you can watch it alone without her, but only if she knows you watch it in general. Sometimes porn spices up relationships, but other times it ruins them.

Multiple studies show that when a man looks at a very attractive female, he judges an average woman less attractive than if he hadn't seen that gorgeous image of a woman prior. So porn can detract from your own woman's beauty.

My biggest problem with porn is how it trains men. Most porn focuses on the man- sex begins with him and ends when HE finishes. The scenes are usually about her pleasing him and based on his expectations. This is all bad habits and not reality. So guys if you watch porn, know that it's like the superman movie you watched as a boy- you really can't fly...it's not real!

Talk about her fantasies. Since women's sex organ is their brain, you can learn a lot about a woman by talking to her about sexual things. She may have fantasies of being dominated (many women do) or being the one dominating. This can tell you how to approach her in the bedroom. You can also talk about how she gets turned on when she is alone. Does she please herself?

Understanding Relationship Communication

Why do people fight?

Does everybody really understand why people fight even when they grow up? A couple may argue about money but arguments may differ between a parent and a child. People may talk back against each other, fight over traffic or even argue about opinions. We can see it in the news, TV shows and even in kids’ animation programs that people argue most of the time. But do we really have to fight? Perhaps, this can be linked to our understanding about the importance and effects of relationship communication in our life, career and its impact to our society.

Relationship is a connection between two individuals or group of people, wherein their ability to express themselves plays a major role in their everyday living. Communication is how we convey our thoughts, ideas, or feelings to others. It is not only the process of expression but it is also coupled with the ability to listen. This is important in all types of a relationship.

You cannot have a relationship without communication or having a communication without creating a relationship, which is why, these two are always joined together. . . a RELATIONSHIP COMMUNICATION.

People put a lot of effort in communicating, may it be in a verbal or nonverbal form. Basically, an effective verbal communication is saying our message through the use of right words such as “You would look good if you put on some make-up” instead of telling the other person “You look ugly.” Using the right words would not offend somebody and we will not eventually sound so tactless. Whereas, an effective nonverbal communication is using the right body language to convey our message such as crossing your arms instead of yawning if you want to tell your visitors to go home because it is already late at night. These two gestures can mean the same thing that you’re no longer interested in the discussion.

What we say and how we say it contributes to the experience of others that may shape their opinion about us. Even if we don’t say anything but our gestures and facial expressions can send a strong message to others. Our ability to listen contributes to how we understand other people’s message that affects our impression towards them that eventually creates our relationship with them. For instance, when a child talks to their parents who are busy doing other chores and doesn’t pay attention then that child might develop the impression that his parents doesn’t love him anymore. This simple incident may result to a bigger problem in the future that is having a feeling of neglect within the child. However, there are a lot of listening techniques, which can be discussed in our succeeding articles that can help improve our communication skills.

Here are tips that can be used to have a successful communication in any relationship, which can be acronym in one word T-A-S-K.

Think first before you say it

- Always be sensitive to the feelings of others everytime you talk or make any gestures. Be sure not to offend the other person. As the saying goes “count 1 to 10 first before you react on something.” This also includes trying to control your temper such as getting angry so fast and saying things that you will later regret. People would appreciate it better if a person is more composed and calm. Collect your thoughts first because in this way, it would lessen any mistakes.

Avoid using too much body language

- If possible, always smile and do not frown when you talk. A happy face makes a happy day. Do not use too many gestures because it is sometimes annoying. It may be possibly be misinterpreted by the other person. There is also a tendency that what you are saying may be construed differently if your body language shows a conflicting message. People who are hearing it may take it as something else or in another meaning.

Simple and concise message

- Make it certain that the message gets through the other person. Use laymen’s term and don’t make the discussion complicated. Avoid going around the bush and don’t use flowery words. It sometimes makes the conversation irritating and confusing too. For instance, don’t say “you are loquacious” when you can say “you are talkative” that is using simple terms. A person expresses his thoughts at a different level when he talks to a child than to an adult.

Keep it clear

- Make sure your message is understandable. Try to ask questions to verify that he/ she understand the discussion. It can ensure you that both or all persons involved are in the same page, which means that everybody grasp everything clearly.

It is our individual TASK to make sure that we contribute to the development of a strong relationship through useful communication. Any couples, families, friends, or groups who want to have a strong and harmonious relationship should know the importance and details of an effective communication in a relationship. The kind of a relationship communication we have in our family helps build the values and attitudes of our children that definitely contributes to our society. How we talk and deal with our friends and co-workers shows our people handling skills that can be a factor in determining the success of our career.

Some Ways To Get a Smooth Relationship

Relation is like a crystal and very sophisticated. It needs proper care, maintenance and attention of both the partners and valuation.. It needs adjustment, good understanding and compromise. A compromise to make your beloved one happy and make him/ her feel that someone is there to take care about him/ her. If you can follow certain steps then it can be easier and comfortable to make a strong bondage between you and your partner.

1- Always be genuine to your beloved one. Let him/ her feel that you are like a open book to him/ her. Trust is a big thing in this relationship and once it breaks then none can bring it back in mind which will create problems in your love life and sometimes may caused break up of a relationship. So be truthful to your partner. Say whatever you feel; say whatever incidents happen to you. Then if he/ she stays with you the he/ she is yours and his/ her love is true for you.

2 - Try to spend a quality time with your beloved one. It will make your partner feel that you are not ignoring him/ her. Try to communicate with him in every possible way, whether you are busy in works or doing something else. If you cannot make a call to him/ her then just send an SMS and make your beloved one feel how much he/ she is important to you. And also show that in spite of being so busy and having a tight schedule, you are aware of him/ her.Sometimes a Romantic SMS or Love Scraps are very helpful to expose your feelings towards your partner and it also make them feel that in every situation or how much you get busy in work, you always think about your partner and that also increases love for you in your partner's mind.

3- Listen his/ her every word very carefully, what your partner says, wants to do, feel and that could make easier for you to understand your partner’s mentality. And that will also help you to know how he/ she is. Thought is very important factor to know about some one’s nature. That will also help you to continue this relationship and you will be able to make a strong understanding between you both. And don’t hide anything from him/ she and that may increase doubt in this relationship.

4- Don’t let him/ her feel that he/ she is alone and no one is there to stand beside of him/ her. That may also cause harm in your relationship. Whether he/ she is wrong or right, stay beside your partner in every situation and try to boost him/ her in every possible way. Give suggestions to him/ her politely but don’t impose your decision forcefully on him/ her. But always bother for what he/ she is doing, with whom he/ she is meeting, where he/ she is going etc.

5- Don’t let someone to interfere into your relationship. Always try to solve it with your beloved one. You can share your feelings with your friends and those who are closed to your heart or whom you can feel better to share but don’t let them underestimate your beloved one. It can also hurt his/ her respect in spite of knowing that she/ he is wrong.

Talk to your partner politely about your problems and try to find out the reason of that problem along with him/ her. That could make your partner realize about the guilt that he/ she has done. And always try to make the situation cool and casual that can also prevent from being bitter.

6- Do not always blame him/ her about any matter. That can also bring a complex in mind of your partner. Always try to make any situation easy and be responsible and careful about her emotion. Don’t say anything or do any act which may hurt his/ her emotion. Mind that all these can bring an obstacle in the way of growing your relationship and these may fade the attraction for each other between you both.

Nourish your relationship softly and carefully like a mother takes care of her child. Love is divine and god blessings. So don’t let it get out of your life by doing some mistakes. Don’t let come your ego between your relationships. Take your partner as he/ she is. Don’t try to change him/ her. Be real and unique and let your partner also be like that. Then only you can taste the freshness of this relationship and spend a happy love life with your beloved one.