CAN YOU MARRY ANYBODY

Look, you're only dating this babe because she's what's available not what you really want. It's like going to all those secondary school dance events in those days and all the girls have been taken, except this one girl. Well, that's the only choice you have so you strike up a conversation. But you soon become Shackled to her when your  friends begin  to talk about you and her, ribbing you. And that's how you find yourself in a relationship you never really wanted,you're lonely, she's lonely, she's available, other things being equal,you wouldn't date her, but you're lonely, she's lonely, hence relationship.
        But there's danger to such matches, you see, when you marry each other,the alonement that motivated the marriage will evaporate, the basis of the relationship is thus gone, so you  are left to build up the  relationship with what is not there, it's  like building a castle on air, you can  only  do it with  your  imagination, that's when  everything begins to irritate you, you  can't  stand  her, little things ignite your anger, all those flaws you  overlooked with the need to satisfy your  loneliness will  now be obvious, her nature, her pimples, her background, her stature. It's  going to be a hard and sad marriage, you're going  to  drift  apart, there's  nothing left, no glue.
      Culture matters in relationship, if you're exposed and she's  not, it will  show up and i don't  get  this thing about people saying 'you can Marry anybody'. Says who?  There are strange philosophies perpetuated by religious people, I  sometimes worry  about some teachings religious people give about relationship, it's  quite troubling, in trying  to be spiritual some people have become quite non-human.
       Love matters in relationship, Attraction matters too, if you don't love her, leave her alone, if you're  not attracted to her, let her be, you're  a man, you're  visual  unless you are a Spirit though. You're  going to be affected by what you see. Every man's emotional, that's why you are attracted to certain Types and different types.
          Never use the wrong criteria for  marriage, that she's  a faithful usher doesn't make her a faithful wife, being a faithful usher is a criterion for being  promoted to head usher not for marriage.
        Don't  regret later in life when your mid-life crisis sets in why you didn't marry that outspoken wild girl and you went for a more subtle, quiet woman because you think she will make a better wife. Don't let religion mes up your  brain. In marriage affection, attraction, physical attributes and character matters,  now the question is this, CAN YOU MARRY  YOU?